My 125th Post: And Then There Were Four

There is a rule of this world, we come alone and we die alone...doesn't matter how many friends we make or relations we succeed, we leave them behind without giving them any right to our time of death...they hang around to see one's body getting laid deep down the ground and shed tears but that doesn't affects the one descended to a place from where there is no return....losing someone is not that easy as one thinks it might be....no matter how much you fight or hate someone, after that someone dies, the world crashes...maybe for a while but still the life gets sucked out of your body....no matter how strong one might be, it is not always easy to hold back....
 When we grow up, we find people in our life in different relations...some act as our parents, some as our siblings and others as friends or foes.....we just get attached to them with time....their little things matter to us and become a part of our daily routines....they become just like a computer program which is incomplete without certain steps....without these people, life seems to hit a pause and nothing seems right.....everything messes up and the mind gets trapped in a maze with walls surrounding each exit.....
I have been trying to write this post from the first day but didn't have the strength to type....honestly speaking, I still don't think am strong enough to pour my heart out in front of you all....usually my posts are my thoughts about things happening around us but this post is purely filled up with my feelings....I just want to write and I think it is fair for my sister that I publish this article online....though she didn't read my work, she always appreciated my efforts and boosted me to write and always had a hope served in a tray for me so that I don't feel as if losing once ends each and every efforts....
On the morning of 2nd April 2014, we the family of five lost one member and now are left with the number four....I lost my sister on that morning....she crashed in the hospital....to be honest with you all, am a different kind of a guy....I really don't understand the type of love I have for people and I really don't know whether I loved her or not and I can't evaluate that....I know that I wanted always to be there for her, I know I wanted to secure her future the best way I could and I know that though we fought always, I never could watch her getting her dose of injections....I don't know whether that is love or not but I do know that she was a part of my life and she would always be there in my heart....I know that her death has shaken me up and turned my insides upside down....I know I miss her fights and her stuff....if that is love then maybe I did love her...maybe that is why I can't stand near her grave without a tear in my eye and maybe that is why I can't talk about her with people and maybe that is why I just can't keep my eyes dry while writing this down....I am strong masha-Allah but still am a human....
There is a lot to share but I don't think I would be able to do that right now so maybe in time I might write something else but I don't think I would post it here....but before ending I would just share, she fought with me on the day of her death and that proved that she recognized me where as she wasn't recognizing anyone else....
Do pray for her soul to be accepted in Jannat and may Allah save her from the torments of Hell....do keep her in your prayers.....

My 123rd Post: Stranger On Chat

I am just blank...I don't know how to start this....really there is nothing in my mind....no words no nothing....it should be something nice, something interesting, something out of this world...it should be something which would grab the reader off her feet and into the air floating over my words....it should be something perfect, something which no one might have ever used....it should be something from my heart but still should be classy enough to show my coolness.....I know what to say and I just know the right words to type....they would be "hi there"....
On a chat, with a total stranger....it is like going in a war with Japanese weaponry but having no clue of the instructed language.....no idea what to say and how to grab the attention....the mind goes totally blank because each smooth line might trigger the bomb that is might force the person to leave....the mind keeps wondering what to say because that start is the only thing that would impress the other person to stay and talk....it shouldn't be too cheesy because that is totally fattening for a start....it shouldn't be out of line because that would break the glass of respect....it shouldn't be something over thought because something which reveals how much you thought before starting a simple chat would indicate the fact that you are a pretender....it should be something simple and appealing at the same time....a simple compliment or greeting work at times.....

Got a reply, now what....everything goes blank....adrenaline rushes through the system and the eyes keep staring at the screen...the heart pumps faster and faster as if it were to beat the time track of Indianapolis 500....for a moment, the hands freeze upon the keyboard and the mind tries to settle back in....suddenly, you gain enough strength to strike some keys and there you have it, a reply upon your screen ready to be sent....the conversation starts and the stranger settles in....victory...
Talking to this stranger seems wonderful because there is a feeling that even though that someone doesn't knows you, he/she is still willing to be there for you....it feels that there is hope in you and you are good enough to get an attention from a total stranger, that you deserve things in life....it gives a rise to dead motivation in life and brings a new dawn....
Talking to strangers isn't safe, that is what we were taught but what is safe? The person you knew since your childhood turned out to be a crook so that leaves a chance that this someone might be an angel or someone whom you might really count on in the upcoming future....stranger today might be someone important tomorrow....trusting someone is something else but before deciding that you can't trust someone, you need to give a chance at least....if there isn't any trust then there is nothing to break and if nothing to break then there is no spice and if no spice then no life....talk to a stranger today...try to know that someone....there are good people even outside the circle you live in.....

My 122nd Post: I Will Be There

When the sun goes down

When your face grows a frown

I will be there

When you would turn around

When you would lose your ground

I will be there

No matter what

Today, tomorrow, whenever you call

I will be there, to catch you from your fall

At times, it gets really difficult to hold on to people and to be with them from day to night....feelings change, people change and even the situations change...there are multiple reasons due to which a rift might bridge a part two people and send them to different corners from where they wouldn't want to be around each other....sometimes it is a mutual decision but at others, one has to suffer while the other walks away....
There are people who never leave....though they might leave physically and break off each and every thread binding two people, they always remains tattooed in the heart....they are among the ones for whom a person would love to cross the limits just to light a smile upon their face...the ones who would never be forgotten and would own the rights of one's care....
People fight and people drift off but at times the heart keeps on saying to them that I will be there no matter what happens...no matter how tough things get or how far a part they are, the inner voice would always tell them that don't worry, the person owning the rights of this heart and voice would always be there for you no matter how deep you fall...this someone would always jump after you without thinking a thing or two....people are not always compatible with each other or they might start developing new feelings or adopt a different nature....reasons like these rot the relationship and leaves no other alternative rather than to end in respect....but some of these people are precious and no matter how hard you try, you always feel that you somehow care for them....you always feel the will to fight for their smile and still you don't want to be with them or aren't with them....
Well, I know there are some people in my life whom I still kinda care about and would always want to be there to hold them up when they take a fall....I am not only talking about someone I have been in love with in the sense of guy and girl thing but someone who means a lot to me....that someone might be a sister to me, a brother to me, a best friend, a special friend, someone special or someone from the past but I know the list of those someones whom I am going to be there for no matter how things turn out between us....so I would like to say that I will be there when you would need me, I will be there when you think you got no one to talk to and I will be there when you want a hand....there is no need for me to mention their names because simply reading this post would prompt the ones whom I am conveying this message to...

If there are people in your life who you feel are important to you or you think you would always be there for them, do tell them one way or another....show them that you mean it and make them count on you....make them realize that someone really cares for them...do it before the time runs out....if you find it hard telling them, then simply share my post with them and dedicate it to them...they will clearly understand your intentions and your motives.....

My 119th Post: My Lady

When a guy grows up, a girl walks into his life without any invitation at times and remains not as a tenant but as the owner of his heart....he lets her be around him all the time and without her, he thinks he is simply incomplete and feels weak to face this world....that someone changes him and brings out someone whom the world had rarely seen....the perfect girl, though she might not be perfect for others but she is the jewel for that guy, the jewel which no one can value except him....
My lady, this seems a beautiful achievement in one's life and it is precious but the thing is that a jewel remains valuable until it gets praised by the world....this is the part where a guy falls behind and with time his lady feels that she is nothing but a trophy won and has earned a place upon his shelf....a lady ain't a trophy to place upon a shelf, she is to be cherished through out....
There are many girls who complain to their husbands that they don't have time for them or they don't care about them or stuff like they loved them before they were married and the love drowned after signing a piece of paper....mostly, they are wrong.....I am not defending those husbands because I believe that it is entirely their fault....a girl who left her house and her family to start a new one with a guy who once was a stranger, would want attention from him....she would want his time and his compliments.....loving someone and flirting etc is easier before marriage but continuing it afterwards is the main task in hand....guys mostly fall back in this situation...they have a thought in their minds that now that they have got the girl of their dreams, they need to concentrate upon their future so that his family may stand up strong....he isn't thinking wrong but the fault is in his balance.....when a husband comes home, his wife expects him to look at her and compliment over her dress maybe but mostly guys just change clothes and hit the sofa because they need a break and want to relax...
Ladies aren't tough to handle...little things are important for them...they make them happy and when their guy appreciates the effort, it is like a big achievement for them....instead of getting home from work and hitting shower, a guy can give his girl a hug and compliment upon maybe her dress or her hair or the flour upon her cheek....anything, it just shows that he notices and a girl wants nothing else just the thing that whom she exhausts herself for, notices her or not.....this is an era of mobiles and each and mostly everyone has one....when you were her boyfriend or fiance, there isn't any moment when you didn't message her and asked her what she was doing....after marrying, same can be done....it takes way too little effort....just show her that she is there in your mind....though she is there all the time but you need to show her that....just a simple way, tell her that you love her from time to time, that would fill her heart with butterflies...
I know I have compared a lady with materialistic things but my motive was positive...a lady is the most precious thing a guy can ask in his life time....she is the one who diverts him towards becoming a gentleman rather than turning into a beast....take care of her and make her view her as the centre piece of your life...if you achieve that, you would achieve a trailer of heaven upon this planet....
Even if you haven't met your lady yet, share this post with the ones who have that is if you like it and all :)

My 107th Post: One's Inner Beast

In the start, I just want to clear a point to all my religious readers that this post is not stating anything against any religious laws or revelations....just try to read it open-mindedly and if still I somehow offend you, then I apoligise for that and please let me know.....

Am a Muslim and Masha-Allah am proud to be one....in Islam, relations are distinguished in two main categories just to maintain the values and to ease a person over selecting the one whom he/she can join in a wedlock....there are two terms which are used to determine the type of relations....one is called 'Mehram', the people whom one can't marry and the other category is 'Na-Mehram', the people one can marry...that is just the basic idea and a helping hand in choosing a spouse....
There is a concept in our society that if the person is Mehram, there is no trouble in letting a girl go out with him or stay home with him alone and if he is Na-Mehram, then the girl should maintain a distance from him and try to avoid him as best as possible.....the guys coming in the category of Mehram aren't only a girl's father and brother, they are also her direct uncles and some other guys but with certain limitations....
What's up my mind is that saying someone is your Mehram doesn't really means you are really safe with him or her.....it is just like expecting a well trained lion not to eat someone even though that someone is dipped in blood and the lion is hungry....that just is impossible because there is this urge, a beast in the lion's heart which might make him take the decision of taking a bite at least....taming the lion won't assure one's life.....in the same way if someone is a Mehram, it doesn't really means that that someone would really take care of her and won't come up with something devilish.....there always lives a beast caged in the heart of both men and women....though the men are caught more often, but there are women involved in the same act.....there is a chance that the beast may break free and take advantage which no one did before....
Being Mehram or Na-Mehram are just two words helping the people decide whom to marry from.....they aren't the certificates of someone's character....trusting someone whether a guy or a girl just because they are Mehram is an idiotic thing....maybe the one who is a Na-Mehram is way more decent person but the only problem is that you think that he or she is Na-Mehram so there are chances that they might target upon your someone....this mostly happens in a guy's case....mostly parents avoid sending their girl with a guy because he has a label of being a Na-Mehram...though it is a nice thing because devil is always present and can cause things to get outta hand but that doesn't means that a Mehram won't have the same devilish feelings....maybe their girl is more secure with her Na-Mehram cousin than with her Mehram uncle....at times the blood relations can't be trusted as well, by them I mean a father, mother,brother or a sister...they can take the physical advantage of a person as well....so the stamp of Mehram doesn't kills the beast inside the person, only the character and the piousness of a person does that.....there are a lot of examples of these type of cases from around the world and they are increasing day by day just because of the immaturity of peoples' minds....
So don't judge a person behind the veils of words....check that someone with your open eyes and then think if you can send your daughter, son or wife with him or her......

My 95th Post: The Hungry Men

When a child enters this world, the first thing it needs is to satisfy its hunger....once satisfied completely, it asks for more in a period of time and with the growing days, its hunger increases and increases....a time comes when that child turns into this common society man who gets hungry to an extent that he starts working hard to fill his growling stomach....hunger isn't only satisfied by food though that was the ideology as a child...with maturing brain, hunger takes different shapes and is also satisfied by the worldly desires....desires like wealth, power and reputation....
Man works hard, day and night, to earn what he desires....he keeps striking his luck in a hope that one day not only his stomach would be filled, but all his desires would be laid down in front of him in a golden platter....when he fails, he gathers up different excuses just to keep his brain intact so that he may start all
over again....
The worst aspect of being hungry is that hunger never dies...though it may seem to seize but it never dies.....after a while, a person feels hungry again and starts going around like a crazy beast...ones who are capable of soothing their hunger know there way out of this mess and the rest, cross every limit just to fulfil that worldly desire....they seem to find no other possible way to earn food for there family or enough money to live their life peacefully....when no other door opens up, they start robbing or killing people for money because they are just impatient and do not trust the One who made them....
I know that it would be tough and for a guy like me, Masha-Allah, I can not understand their feelings and their urgency but that doesn't give them any right to go on and mess with the ones who worked really hard for what they deserved....snatching someone's possessions just to satisfy one's family is the reason of killing the family of the victim.....who knows what type of wealth a person has...one who drives a car doesn't really means that he/she is wealthy...
I know that the government is to be blamed for such a rise in crime rates but that shouldn't be used as an excuse....our government has flaws, everyone knows that but that really doesn't means that one should go out and be a thief, a murderer or start up businesses like prostitution....that ain't the answer to the problems....there are ways to earn and not saying it just as a thought....these people should see the poor farming families who work day and night just to earn enough to eat for a single time....there are many jobs available but people want shortcuts to wealth and while taking one, they forget the initial desire of hunger in this society, a pious and respected life....
I really don't know how to stop these people who are building their castle upon other's gold but I do know that they are wrong and I would always try to raise my voice against them....may all of us be blessed and develop respect for each and everyone's right...

My 89th Post: Love After Marriage

I wonder how it would be to live suddenly with someone whom you may or may not have known but still you don't share feelings with that someone...that how someone feels after winding up in a wedlock with someone for whom there wasn't a feeling of love ever shared....the entire life changes from that moment on...you don't only have to care for what you always had to but there is a new person in your life whom you have to love no matter what, have to wake up each morning looking at his/her face....
This is just like going to a new school without the knowledge of anyone there....that is creepy but there we don't really have to love anyone to move on neither does anyone rely upon us....but in a marriage, the eyes of that someone follows our every move....both are in the state of adjusting to the other one and it is awkward for both....but what I am really trying to visualise is that how do two people, who are married without any kind of motive for each other, fall in love....is it because there ain't any other option for them or they develop a habit of being around that someone and then naturally just fall in love with time....
I don't know and most probably wouldn't ever know how it is to live with a stranger and fall in love with her because I intend to follow the path towards love marriage but still ain't sure about the future, anything can happen.....but what ever happens, I think arrange marriages are good too...it's an entirely different experience but eventually mostly everyone falls in love....how, not sure but I would just go with my theory that with time, people become habitual of their surroundings or the ones near them....with time, a husband starts caring for his wife as a bestowed duty upon him by the world and with care there are moments when there is a spark developed in between them which lightens up the relation and that care somehow, maybe magically, becomes love....love which makes a couple live and die together in this world with the image of each other in their eyes.....
The love which develops in the hearts of both man and woman is a blessing from the heaven....just think if that love didn't develop, it would be just two strangers living together under a roof in a single room without any feelings....life would be way too complicated for anyone to understand....a wife working day and night to look after her husband's family, would be just a duty and duties can also be performed by machines...the only difference would be that machines can't raise children and people can.....but, that isn't what happens....two strangers fall in love, never ending love...they may drift apart at times but still, love binds them together....the best gift of marriage, someone to be there to love you even when that someone was no one until you signed a sheet of paper and agreed to be legally wed.....

My 69th Post: Discovering The Truth

Ever seen those Star Plus dramas? If you have then you exactly know how it feels when we get to know the truth about something...yeah it would have been much cooler if we had those idiotic sound effects and those death defining camera views in our real life but still the feeling they show is somewhere near what we really feel....
In most of the cases the truth is ugly because we just can't digest it....it is a dish which is best served as a starter not as a desert...but still, people leave it aside for the end.....truth, is a heavy word....honestly speaking, I can't digest it as well but still I work my way into it because there is no other option besides it...it is much easier to accept the fact which is laid as soon as possible because no matter how much time we take, it would remain the same till the end....

For me, it is a really depressing moment and I get way too much gloomy and fall off the track...it is just because I believe in the beginning that what ever I am told is the only face of the tale....the stories, the dialogues everything seems to be real and there, the brain, creates up a world or better to call it a house in which that person resides....the house made from what I get told and it seems beautiful if the material pleases my nature....but the time when it all is stamped as a lie, it feels as if the house got on fire and the only way to save it is by getting it burnt or just believe that there was no fire....
It is really tough to know the truth and do nothing about it....yes, realizing the fact that everything was a lie is something but still realizing something and acting upon it are both two different things....at times, we get so much indulged in the liar and the lie that we put an intentional veil upon it so that we don't get to see the ugly face of it....we bury the truth deep down our heart and sink it like that Black Beard's treasure chest....no matter how hard others would try to thrash that lie, we would still believe that one person....yet, at times we act differently...rather than this soft and kind nature, we show a bit more rude and aggressive one....that is the case in which we would burn the house our self....the moment truth arrives at the door steps, everything is destroyed and no chance of survival remains.....
In my views, non of them is a suitable way to face a lie....the second one is better because at least the person is accepting the facts and trying to live in reality but still that also hurts because once a person gets attached to someone's lie, it is really tough to move away without getting hurt....the best way is to let the house burn by itself....instead of thumping away, it is better to watch it till the ashes remain....as it is said that with time bruises heal, or something like that, a lie would die the same way...instead of changing the life, just try to change that person without taking any hasty decisions....this will hurt less because once you are away from that someone, it would only pinch because of that spoken lie....
Just smile and try to live life to its peak and enjoy..Tc, comment and do share..... 

My 40th Post: Blame Game

Doing something is really easy...you just have to choose what you have to do and then make up your mind to do it....if the thing goes well, then it awaits some applause but if it goes wrong, then you can save yourself easily by blaming someone....that is how things work but that is what I am against....that is not the way people should live on....blaming someone is not the answer to your failure.....if you blame someone just because you couldn't do it then it shows how low graded you may be....
There is a thing in my mind and I know I can do it....instead of going through the plan, I give it a try.....I fall badly on my face....the act was a disaster...instead of realizing my fault, I simply blame my parents or someone else that they could have stopped me....is that the right thing to do? am I that blind that I don't see where I went wrong? I should have thought over it properly instead of rushing to the scene of action.....that would be completely my fault....even if someone would have advised me, I would have gone with what I wanted to do...and if I had agreed to someone who would have told me to quit the idea and then I came to know that it was one brilliant idea but there is no more time to carry it on, I would still be blaming because I didn't do it just because of that someone...
Why don't we rely just on our thinking? talking to someone and hearing their advise doesn't means that we have to follow it on any cost...that just means that we are trying to pick a safe corner before doing something....still we are the ones to take the decision not them....we are the ones to be blamed, not them....we have enough capability to see the outcome of our decision.....so what if it went wrong, we should be strong enough to stand by it instead of telling the crowd that it was his idea not mine...I didn't want to do this, he insisted....now that is simply a sign of a coward....if you blame people just because you did what they advised you to do, then I hope you have enough confidence to step up to the world as a coward....
Be fair guys....if you don't have the guts of doing something, then don't do it rather than killing someone's respect....blaming someone has one worst result, you would never be trusted by the person whom you blamed even if that someone was your best-friend...that someone had to go through rough comments and face shame just because you told everyone that you are the innocent one sitting in between....don't ruin the sails and drown the ship specially when saving a name after something so little....and if you have already blamed someone, then try to fix things by accepting the fall rather than supporting your false statement....you still have time to do the right thing but remember, if you blamed in public, then clear the things in the same crowd....
Learn to preserve things specially relations....if you blame someone in order to make a new relation or save an other, you are truly making a mistake....there are other ways to do things....to break something in order to gain an other still leaves you with a single thing in hand....understand it, its simple math people...so stop blaming and try to be honest with everyone, that would earn you respect and trust....
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My 14th Post:Flirt

Ya, I know it is Ramadan and I am fasting as well but this is just a post...doesn't really means that I am flirting :P well what to talk about this magic word....it is getting common these days...where ever you go, it is heard that the person is flirting or being a victim of flirt...
In my views, what most people do these days ain't flirt...that is just crap...if what the new generations think is flirt then what was it when the characters like James Bond did in the screen play? that was the real thing...flirting is in fact the use of charm to impress someone, it doesn't means that one has to lie in order to achieve the goal but lay out the words in a way like a normal dish is served by some experienced chief....now that is real flirt....
Going to a girl and telling her that you are that much rich or you drift all the time but in reality you are just an average guy who can't even handle the car steering well, is called lying not flirting...that proves that you don't know the real game...you are just playing along with someone who is also desperate to get with someone...the real deal in flirting is to charm someone only with true words in such a way that you are the only one for them...
People flirt all the time...not always to get into a relation but some times just for the sack of fun I guess....like going somewhere and you see a pretty girl....you pass on a smile...that's also a part of flirtmenship but a small  level cause it ain't necessary that you are going to go after her and all....it was just a pass on smile....
The best part  in flirting is to achieve the smile and attention of someone who is a difficult catch....just like fishing for a killer whale....it is fun but my advice is to be honest and sincere with the person you are trying to get on with...I mean when the flirt is successful, just stay with that someone instead of leaving that out...that would be a good thing to do...
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