My 107th Post: One's Inner Beast

In the start, I just want to clear a point to all my religious readers that this post is not stating anything against any religious laws or revelations....just try to read it open-mindedly and if still I somehow offend you, then I apoligise for that and please let me know.....

Am a Muslim and Masha-Allah am proud to be one....in Islam, relations are distinguished in two main categories just to maintain the values and to ease a person over selecting the one whom he/she can join in a wedlock....there are two terms which are used to determine the type of relations....one is called 'Mehram', the people whom one can't marry and the other category is 'Na-Mehram', the people one can marry...that is just the basic idea and a helping hand in choosing a spouse....
There is a concept in our society that if the person is Mehram, there is no trouble in letting a girl go out with him or stay home with him alone and if he is Na-Mehram, then the girl should maintain a distance from him and try to avoid him as best as possible.....the guys coming in the category of Mehram aren't only a girl's father and brother, they are also her direct uncles and some other guys but with certain limitations....
What's up my mind is that saying someone is your Mehram doesn't really means you are really safe with him or her.....it is just like expecting a well trained lion not to eat someone even though that someone is dipped in blood and the lion is hungry....that just is impossible because there is this urge, a beast in the lion's heart which might make him take the decision of taking a bite at least....taming the lion won't assure one's life.....in the same way if someone is a Mehram, it doesn't really means that that someone would really take care of her and won't come up with something devilish.....there always lives a beast caged in the heart of both men and women....though the men are caught more often, but there are women involved in the same act.....there is a chance that the beast may break free and take advantage which no one did before....
Being Mehram or Na-Mehram are just two words helping the people decide whom to marry from.....they aren't the certificates of someone's character....trusting someone whether a guy or a girl just because they are Mehram is an idiotic thing....maybe the one who is a Na-Mehram is way more decent person but the only problem is that you think that he or she is Na-Mehram so there are chances that they might target upon your someone....this mostly happens in a guy's case....mostly parents avoid sending their girl with a guy because he has a label of being a Na-Mehram...though it is a nice thing because devil is always present and can cause things to get outta hand but that doesn't means that a Mehram won't have the same devilish feelings....maybe their girl is more secure with her Na-Mehram cousin than with her Mehram uncle....at times the blood relations can't be trusted as well, by them I mean a father, mother,brother or a sister...they can take the physical advantage of a person as well....so the stamp of Mehram doesn't kills the beast inside the person, only the character and the piousness of a person does that.....there are a lot of examples of these type of cases from around the world and they are increasing day by day just because of the immaturity of peoples' minds....
So don't judge a person behind the veils of words....check that someone with your open eyes and then think if you can send your daughter, son or wife with him or her......

My 88th Post: Hijab

There is this thought going around in my head from long....I wasn't able to write on it because I wanted to experience more before I say something over it....I have noticed more and more women joining the circle of jihab and have started wearing abaya (the veil) so that is a good thing, right? but well what I have noticed is that most of them have forgotten the true essence of veiling themselves....today even abaya is worn just for the sense of fashion....most of the ladies these days don't have the real believe of hijab, they just do it because it is in or someone might have forced them to....so to them I would like to say that it isn't a fashion statement...
I guess most of my readers would be firstly questioning upon the right I have to talk about them, so for them I would like to say that I ain't pin pointing anyone, am just writing my thoughts and giving my views here.....after that their thought might be that at least they are veiling themselves so it is alright....well yes, it is good that at least they are trying to amend their dressing but that doesn't means that one is really covering herself from men....I mean hijab doesn't means only to wear a veil.....covering one's body is essential but that should be followed by both style and behaviour too....
What's on my mind is that I have noticed a lot of girls these days who wear abaya to veil themselves but most of them instead of covering their face, just wear a scarf....that covers the hair and it is believed that hair makes a woman more attractive...so wearing only a scarf instead of covering the face is also good but that doesn't means that the girl goes on covering herself with makeup or putting a brooch over her scarf....the motive of a hijab is to become unattractive to the opposite gender....by puffing makeup or wearing extra
jewelry or getting different colour combinations or attractive material for the cloth of a veil just kills the concept of hijab....even though you are wearing an abaya, the concept of covering yourself dies because you are still attractive to men and sure the men should lower their gaze but still, they are men and they would look if someone goes by and is pretty....I agree that there are totally and properly covered ladies and still men stalk them but here is the fault of those men not of those decent ladies....
The other thing which swims in my mind while thinking about girls who hijab is that most of them just wear an abaya, that is they don't really feel what it gives them instead they take it as a duty which a person does without any dedication.....yes, I know I shouldn't be judging those people but the thing is that how can a girl who veils herself in front of everyone, dress outstandingly in some party with perfect matching jewelry n shoes.....if that party is only women, then sure nothing wrong with that...but a girl veiling all the time she goes out and then is all dressed in a co-party feels like she doesn't really care whether to do hijab or not....else that type of a girl would be uncomfortable while revealing herself in front of the public....or another one who is also the veiling type, has no attention over who is present in the room or maybe watching her while she is doing some chores or anything...I mean the one who veils, remains conscious when she is some place where others can look at her....the door is opened and she is without any kinda hijab and the public can easily look at her while she moves on with what she wants to do....that girl if she was really into veiling herself, would be alert all the time....hijab doesn't means only to be unattractive by the body, but also one should use a proper type of tone and style when around people who she veils from....
So to all those who veil, it is really a good thing and many are proud of you but please do it properly and try to believe in hijab rather than just wearing an abaya and before taunting guys and pointing fingers over them, see if you are acting properly or not.....
To all the ladies who read it, please do not get offended by this post...this is just my observation and my thoughts and maybe it isn't for you (the one who is reading), it is for the ones whom I saw acting or behaving like this so just try to vision what I want to say....
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