My 131st Post: Am I Forgotten?

Am I forgotten? Ever wondered if people remember you even when you don’t talk anymore. I mean the person whom you used to be a best bud of and now you guys don’t talk, do you think they would have you in their mind still. Or someone whom you thought was important for you but then things didn’t work out and the chapter got shut away for the spiders to nest in. Ever wondered the way you think about them, the way you recall their precious memories, their names and their existence, would they be doing the same time after time.

I have met a lot of people in my age and with most of them, I don’t have any contact at all. Some were just random folks but then there also were those whom I wanted to be a part of my each and every memory. Destiny didn’t have their pictures in my timeline but still I have them in my head. Like the friends I had made in my junior years. Some of them are still in contact but then again majority are like the leaves of fall which flew away from me.

I still remember the names of each and every girl I had a crush upon or whom I fell in love with. Some of them know the fact that I was drooling upon them but specially the girl whose name the cupid struck me with knows it well because she is the only one till the date whom I had enough courage to propose. Well I do wonder if she even remembers me and recalls my memories or thoughts at times. She did had made it clear that I am not going to be a part of her memories by blocking me from every way possible but still, I just wonder if she remembers me.

Then there were random others whom I thought would remain my friends but it didn’t happen. Like a great friend of mine from the school days whom I used to hang out with. She was a nice person and best of all, she helped me out in my love thingy but then something went wrong and it ended. Or like my recent thought about a friend whom I had a misunderstanding with and now she remains at a distance though I did clear it all and our chat ended with my words that I would wait for her reply when she would be willing to talk no matter how high the pile of the years get. Now I wonder it has been months since we talked, does she even remember me. There are a lot of people like her whom I drifted apart from and it has been long since we talked but I don’t think they remember me because alright a girl might have some issues but what about a guy? What about my buddies from the school days whom I haven’t heard from in years. I really don’t even know if they are alive. Well that is life.

I do wonder and I believe everyone does because one can not just kill a memory out of the system. We are not machines whose RAM can be erased or something, we are humans with hearts. If we spend time with even a cat at our door, we remember it. It is mostly our ego and the awkwardness of time which binds us at distance. Well the destiny chose this for us. Some people stay and others just drift away. I would like some of them back but I don’t think anyone would want the entire fleet at their steps again because they were gone and when they left, it might have been a good thing to happen in life. Still I believe that no soul on Earth is forgotten just ignored due to our human nature. They left due to some reason but still they remain a part of our memories.

My 119th Post: My Lady

When a guy grows up, a girl walks into his life without any invitation at times and remains not as a tenant but as the owner of his heart....he lets her be around him all the time and without her, he thinks he is simply incomplete and feels weak to face this world....that someone changes him and brings out someone whom the world had rarely seen....the perfect girl, though she might not be perfect for others but she is the jewel for that guy, the jewel which no one can value except him....
My lady, this seems a beautiful achievement in one's life and it is precious but the thing is that a jewel remains valuable until it gets praised by the world....this is the part where a guy falls behind and with time his lady feels that she is nothing but a trophy won and has earned a place upon his shelf....a lady ain't a trophy to place upon a shelf, she is to be cherished through out....
There are many girls who complain to their husbands that they don't have time for them or they don't care about them or stuff like they loved them before they were married and the love drowned after signing a piece of paper....mostly, they are wrong.....I am not defending those husbands because I believe that it is entirely their fault....a girl who left her house and her family to start a new one with a guy who once was a stranger, would want attention from him....she would want his time and his compliments.....loving someone and flirting etc is easier before marriage but continuing it afterwards is the main task in hand....guys mostly fall back in this situation...they have a thought in their minds that now that they have got the girl of their dreams, they need to concentrate upon their future so that his family may stand up strong....he isn't thinking wrong but the fault is in his balance.....when a husband comes home, his wife expects him to look at her and compliment over her dress maybe but mostly guys just change clothes and hit the sofa because they need a break and want to relax...
Ladies aren't tough to handle...little things are important for them...they make them happy and when their guy appreciates the effort, it is like a big achievement for them....instead of getting home from work and hitting shower, a guy can give his girl a hug and compliment upon maybe her dress or her hair or the flour upon her cheek....anything, it just shows that he notices and a girl wants nothing else just the thing that whom she exhausts herself for, notices her or not.....this is an era of mobiles and each and mostly everyone has one....when you were her boyfriend or fiance, there isn't any moment when you didn't message her and asked her what she was doing....after marrying, same can be done....it takes way too little effort....just show her that she is there in your mind....though she is there all the time but you need to show her that....just a simple way, tell her that you love her from time to time, that would fill her heart with butterflies...
I know I have compared a lady with materialistic things but my motive was positive...a lady is the most precious thing a guy can ask in his life time....she is the one who diverts him towards becoming a gentleman rather than turning into a beast....take care of her and make her view her as the centre piece of your life...if you achieve that, you would achieve a trailer of heaven upon this planet....
Even if you haven't met your lady yet, share this post with the ones who have that is if you like it and all :)

My 107th Post: One's Inner Beast

In the start, I just want to clear a point to all my religious readers that this post is not stating anything against any religious laws or revelations....just try to read it open-mindedly and if still I somehow offend you, then I apoligise for that and please let me know.....

Am a Muslim and Masha-Allah am proud to be one....in Islam, relations are distinguished in two main categories just to maintain the values and to ease a person over selecting the one whom he/she can join in a wedlock....there are two terms which are used to determine the type of relations....one is called 'Mehram', the people whom one can't marry and the other category is 'Na-Mehram', the people one can marry...that is just the basic idea and a helping hand in choosing a spouse....
There is a concept in our society that if the person is Mehram, there is no trouble in letting a girl go out with him or stay home with him alone and if he is Na-Mehram, then the girl should maintain a distance from him and try to avoid him as best as possible.....the guys coming in the category of Mehram aren't only a girl's father and brother, they are also her direct uncles and some other guys but with certain limitations....
What's up my mind is that saying someone is your Mehram doesn't really means you are really safe with him or her.....it is just like expecting a well trained lion not to eat someone even though that someone is dipped in blood and the lion is hungry....that just is impossible because there is this urge, a beast in the lion's heart which might make him take the decision of taking a bite at least....taming the lion won't assure one's life.....in the same way if someone is a Mehram, it doesn't really means that that someone would really take care of her and won't come up with something devilish.....there always lives a beast caged in the heart of both men and women....though the men are caught more often, but there are women involved in the same act.....there is a chance that the beast may break free and take advantage which no one did before....
Being Mehram or Na-Mehram are just two words helping the people decide whom to marry from.....they aren't the certificates of someone's character....trusting someone whether a guy or a girl just because they are Mehram is an idiotic thing....maybe the one who is a Na-Mehram is way more decent person but the only problem is that you think that he or she is Na-Mehram so there are chances that they might target upon your someone....this mostly happens in a guy's case....mostly parents avoid sending their girl with a guy because he has a label of being a Na-Mehram...though it is a nice thing because devil is always present and can cause things to get outta hand but that doesn't means that a Mehram won't have the same devilish feelings....maybe their girl is more secure with her Na-Mehram cousin than with her Mehram uncle....at times the blood relations can't be trusted as well, by them I mean a father, mother,brother or a sister...they can take the physical advantage of a person as well....so the stamp of Mehram doesn't kills the beast inside the person, only the character and the piousness of a person does that.....there are a lot of examples of these type of cases from around the world and they are increasing day by day just because of the immaturity of peoples' minds....
So don't judge a person behind the veils of words....check that someone with your open eyes and then think if you can send your daughter, son or wife with him or her......