My 119th Post: My Lady

When a guy grows up, a girl walks into his life without any invitation at times and remains not as a tenant but as the owner of his heart....he lets her be around him all the time and without her, he thinks he is simply incomplete and feels weak to face this world....that someone changes him and brings out someone whom the world had rarely seen....the perfect girl, though she might not be perfect for others but she is the jewel for that guy, the jewel which no one can value except him....
My lady, this seems a beautiful achievement in one's life and it is precious but the thing is that a jewel remains valuable until it gets praised by the world....this is the part where a guy falls behind and with time his lady feels that she is nothing but a trophy won and has earned a place upon his shelf....a lady ain't a trophy to place upon a shelf, she is to be cherished through out....
There are many girls who complain to their husbands that they don't have time for them or they don't care about them or stuff like they loved them before they were married and the love drowned after signing a piece of paper....mostly, they are wrong.....I am not defending those husbands because I believe that it is entirely their fault....a girl who left her house and her family to start a new one with a guy who once was a stranger, would want attention from him....she would want his time and his compliments.....loving someone and flirting etc is easier before marriage but continuing it afterwards is the main task in hand....guys mostly fall back in this situation...they have a thought in their minds that now that they have got the girl of their dreams, they need to concentrate upon their future so that his family may stand up strong....he isn't thinking wrong but the fault is in his balance.....when a husband comes home, his wife expects him to look at her and compliment over her dress maybe but mostly guys just change clothes and hit the sofa because they need a break and want to relax...
Ladies aren't tough to handle...little things are important for them...they make them happy and when their guy appreciates the effort, it is like a big achievement for them....instead of getting home from work and hitting shower, a guy can give his girl a hug and compliment upon maybe her dress or her hair or the flour upon her cheek....anything, it just shows that he notices and a girl wants nothing else just the thing that whom she exhausts herself for, notices her or not.....this is an era of mobiles and each and mostly everyone has one....when you were her boyfriend or fiance, there isn't any moment when you didn't message her and asked her what she was doing....after marrying, same can be done....it takes way too little effort....just show her that she is there in your mind....though she is there all the time but you need to show her that....just a simple way, tell her that you love her from time to time, that would fill her heart with butterflies...
I know I have compared a lady with materialistic things but my motive was positive...a lady is the most precious thing a guy can ask in his life time....she is the one who diverts him towards becoming a gentleman rather than turning into a beast....take care of her and make her view her as the centre piece of your life...if you achieve that, you would achieve a trailer of heaven upon this planet....
Even if you haven't met your lady yet, share this post with the ones who have that is if you like it and all :)

My 107th Post: One's Inner Beast

In the start, I just want to clear a point to all my religious readers that this post is not stating anything against any religious laws or revelations....just try to read it open-mindedly and if still I somehow offend you, then I apoligise for that and please let me know.....

Am a Muslim and Masha-Allah am proud to be one....in Islam, relations are distinguished in two main categories just to maintain the values and to ease a person over selecting the one whom he/she can join in a wedlock....there are two terms which are used to determine the type of relations....one is called 'Mehram', the people whom one can't marry and the other category is 'Na-Mehram', the people one can marry...that is just the basic idea and a helping hand in choosing a spouse....
There is a concept in our society that if the person is Mehram, there is no trouble in letting a girl go out with him or stay home with him alone and if he is Na-Mehram, then the girl should maintain a distance from him and try to avoid him as best as possible.....the guys coming in the category of Mehram aren't only a girl's father and brother, they are also her direct uncles and some other guys but with certain limitations....
What's up my mind is that saying someone is your Mehram doesn't really means you are really safe with him or her.....it is just like expecting a well trained lion not to eat someone even though that someone is dipped in blood and the lion is hungry....that just is impossible because there is this urge, a beast in the lion's heart which might make him take the decision of taking a bite at least....taming the lion won't assure one's life.....in the same way if someone is a Mehram, it doesn't really means that that someone would really take care of her and won't come up with something devilish.....there always lives a beast caged in the heart of both men and women....though the men are caught more often, but there are women involved in the same act.....there is a chance that the beast may break free and take advantage which no one did before....
Being Mehram or Na-Mehram are just two words helping the people decide whom to marry from.....they aren't the certificates of someone's character....trusting someone whether a guy or a girl just because they are Mehram is an idiotic thing....maybe the one who is a Na-Mehram is way more decent person but the only problem is that you think that he or she is Na-Mehram so there are chances that they might target upon your someone....this mostly happens in a guy's case....mostly parents avoid sending their girl with a guy because he has a label of being a Na-Mehram...though it is a nice thing because devil is always present and can cause things to get outta hand but that doesn't means that a Mehram won't have the same devilish feelings....maybe their girl is more secure with her Na-Mehram cousin than with her Mehram uncle....at times the blood relations can't be trusted as well, by them I mean a father, mother,brother or a sister...they can take the physical advantage of a person as well....so the stamp of Mehram doesn't kills the beast inside the person, only the character and the piousness of a person does that.....there are a lot of examples of these type of cases from around the world and they are increasing day by day just because of the immaturity of peoples' minds....
So don't judge a person behind the veils of words....check that someone with your open eyes and then think if you can send your daughter, son or wife with him or her......

My 89th Post: Love After Marriage

I wonder how it would be to live suddenly with someone whom you may or may not have known but still you don't share feelings with that someone...that how someone feels after winding up in a wedlock with someone for whom there wasn't a feeling of love ever shared....the entire life changes from that moment on...you don't only have to care for what you always had to but there is a new person in your life whom you have to love no matter what, have to wake up each morning looking at his/her face....
This is just like going to a new school without the knowledge of anyone there....that is creepy but there we don't really have to love anyone to move on neither does anyone rely upon us....but in a marriage, the eyes of that someone follows our every move....both are in the state of adjusting to the other one and it is awkward for both....but what I am really trying to visualise is that how do two people, who are married without any kind of motive for each other, fall in love....is it because there ain't any other option for them or they develop a habit of being around that someone and then naturally just fall in love with time....
I don't know and most probably wouldn't ever know how it is to live with a stranger and fall in love with her because I intend to follow the path towards love marriage but still ain't sure about the future, anything can happen.....but what ever happens, I think arrange marriages are good too...it's an entirely different experience but eventually mostly everyone falls in love....how, not sure but I would just go with my theory that with time, people become habitual of their surroundings or the ones near them....with time, a husband starts caring for his wife as a bestowed duty upon him by the world and with care there are moments when there is a spark developed in between them which lightens up the relation and that care somehow, maybe magically, becomes love....love which makes a couple live and die together in this world with the image of each other in their eyes.....
The love which develops in the hearts of both man and woman is a blessing from the heaven....just think if that love didn't develop, it would be just two strangers living together under a roof in a single room without any feelings....life would be way too complicated for anyone to understand....a wife working day and night to look after her husband's family, would be just a duty and duties can also be performed by machines...the only difference would be that machines can't raise children and people can.....but, that isn't what happens....two strangers fall in love, never ending love...they may drift apart at times but still, love binds them together....the best gift of marriage, someone to be there to love you even when that someone was no one until you signed a sheet of paper and agreed to be legally wed.....

My 72nd Post: The Disgust in Love

The post title might be suggesting that I am the type of a guy who would run away from love and the love stories...in other words, I might be completely an unromantic soul but that is not what I meant to implant in the readers' mind...I am a guy who accepts love and supports it as well but here I am stating the love developed by the 21st century generation....Yes, I am a part of that generation and no, I am not some 25 or 30 year old guy who is stepping into maturity now....I just ended my teens a year ago and this new type of love disgusted me then and disgusts me now...
There is this guy who likes this girl....he goes to her and tells her about his feelings...the girl feels the same and they are together....isn't that supposed to be it? I mean, they like each other, are in a relationship and if things go well, they might marry each other....through out that period of time, they greet each other as special friends but still maintain their limits....a simple and decent love story...what else is required here? I don't think there is a need of any type of spices here, it is perfect as it is but no, there are many who would shout out to the world, proving my insanity....
For me, getting in a relationship is just getting an approval and then with time trying to know that someone better so that the future might be perfect or well seen....on the other hand, for many after proposal comes the time of dating and stuff like that....these days, the life after marriage is same as the life during some relation, only the difference is that after marriage, you can become a father in front of the world....I am not saying that everybody has turned out like this but still there are many to be seen....
Getting physical with someone who is only a girlfriend, someone who is legally not a part of your life, is a shameless act....what if you two don't end up together and a day comes when your spouse finds out about your plays and all or what if you are a guy and you find out after marrying a girl that she was once one of your buddy's girlfriend and they were really into each other? Try thinking over this by standing at the end where it might hurt bad, the point where you get to suffer due to someone's guilt....what would happen to your male ego then? It would be thrashed and crushed....
Some of you might just agree to the part that being physical is not a good idea, that gift should be wrapped till the wedding but what about those private chats and dialogues....you love someone, you tell them...what is up with sending kisses and hugs to someone you have no connection with....I don't want to type inappropriate stuff here but some chats are disgusting and are just off limits....alright fine, sending a hug or a peck is kind of a way of showing continued interest and affection but that should be it...no need of digging into details and describing the scene by taking it away from romance to a porno...is that seriously some kind of love I am unaware of? I really don't think so...
Love should be enough pure that you would easily present it in front of your parents....it should not be the type where your father would have to bend his neck for his entire life....have you ever imagined what would happen if your chats are seen by your family? do you really think your parents would be proud of you and specially for girls, do you really think after viewing all that your brother would want to stand there for you? No, no one would....I said specially girls because no matter which society you are from, you are respected once and when there is a mark upon your forehead, it is never erased through out your life....
 Take care people and its my advise to all to love but in a manner that you would be able to maintain your old relations and wouldn't let anyone down specially your family....do comment your views and share it on....

My 45th Post: Love Between a Gender

The day before yesterday, I was in a chat room where I met a guy who started chatting with me....he was a nice kid and we chatted for a while and suddenly he decided to leave...when I asked him why, he told me that he was jealous of me....that felt odd because I didn't tell him anything about myself which would make me a cool guy or something....after a while of convincing, he told me the reason and that seemed a serious matter...the reason for jealousy was that I liked girls and he unfortunately liked guys....that led to a state of confusion in his life....
A guy loving a guy as a brother, friend or any relation which is off the bed is valid but a guy dating a guy is odd....same goes for girls.....if someone goes against the laws of nature, he/she would definitely be confused because that is not how things work....a gay couple sitting in a park holding hands in between 5 other couples who are straight, points it as the odd one out...even that behavior can disturb other couples and make them leave the area....the society doesn't accept it and it shouldn't accept it either....
Scientifically there is no reason for being a gay or a lesbian....science has no answer in this matter, it just can predict that maybe this change in orientation is caused by environmental factors or just the psychology of that human being....like that kid, there are many who are facing this problem but still there are those who have accepted this and are going against nature.....
The question here is that why being a homosexual is wrong.....accusing someone is way too easy but making someone understand the point is tough...before starting any explanation, I want to ask any homosexual here that can you guys have a baby? well no, you can't....except that you adopt someone, you can't bare your own child....the combination of a guy and a girl produces a new offspring which is how this world continues to grow....every year there are deaths and births taking place....if you cancel out any one of them, this world would be unbalanced....many deaths and no births would lead to a drop in mankind and on the other hand many births and no deaths would limit the resources and there would be nothing for humanity to survive upon...in both the cases, there is an end to this human race....
Imagine if everyone turns out to be a gay or a lesbian, what would happen....there would be no birth ratio because a man can't have a man's child neither a woman can have a woman's child....deaths would continue because we are mortal.....there would be an end to relations because if we look closely then every relation on this planet is born by the matrimony of a man and a women....the human race would divide apart ending to a limit of just being a couple and nothing else.....in simple words, life would tend to disappear from this planet and it would be a trailer of hell on Earth...
If you are having trouble in getting your mind off the same gender, then just keep on reminding yourself that you love the opposite gender...keep on motivating yourself to the ones who are not like your body type....instead of accepting to be a homosexual, keep on telling your mind to stop playing jokes on you and you are straight in orientation....not only Islam disallows and hates these kind of people, but every other religion is against them.....religion is the perfect guidance for humans and if that is against something, then accept it that you are doing something wrong.....
I have no intention of offending anyone here, just wanted to post my views and I hope you all would agree to them no matter from what cast, religion, or orientation you are from.....choose wisely as what you do may affect you and other people in many ways....
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