In the start, I just want to clear a point to all my religious readers that this post is not stating anything against any religious laws or revelations....just try to read it open-mindedly and if still I somehow offend you, then I apoligise for that and please let me know.....
Am a Muslim and Masha-Allah am proud to be one....in Islam, relations are distinguished in two main categories just to maintain the values and to ease a person over selecting the one whom he/she can join in a wedlock....there are two terms which are used to determine the type of relations....one is called 'Mehram', the people whom one can't marry and the other category is 'Na-Mehram', the people one can marry...that is just the basic idea and a helping hand in choosing a spouse....
There is a concept in our society that if the person is Mehram, there is no trouble in letting a girl go out with him or stay home with him alone and if he is Na-Mehram, then the girl should maintain a distance from him and try to avoid him as best as possible.....the guys coming in the category of Mehram aren't only a girl's father and brother, they are also her direct uncles and some other guys but with certain limitations....What's up my mind is that saying someone is your Mehram doesn't really means you are really safe with him or her.....it is just like expecting a well trained lion not to eat someone even though that someone is dipped in blood and the lion is hungry....that just is impossible because there is this urge, a beast in the lion's heart which might make him take the decision of taking a bite at least....taming the lion won't assure one's life.....in the same way if someone is a Mehram, it doesn't really means that that someone would really take care of her and won't come up with something devilish.....there always lives a beast caged in the heart of both men and women....though the men are caught more often, but there are women involved in the same act.....there is a chance that the beast may break free and take advantage which no one did before....
Being Mehram or Na-Mehram are just two words helping the people decide whom to marry from.....they aren't the certificates of someone's character....trusting someone whether a guy or a girl just because they are Mehram is an idiotic thing....maybe the one who is a Na-Mehram is way more decent person but the only problem is that you think that he or she is Na-Mehram so there are chances that they might target upon your someone....this mostly happens in a guy's case....mostly parents avoid sending their girl with a guy because he has a label of being a Na-Mehram...though it is a nice thing because devil is always present and can cause things to get outta hand but that doesn't means that a Mehram won't have the same devilish feelings....maybe their girl is more secure with her Na-Mehram cousin than with her Mehram uncle....at times the blood relations can't be trusted as well, by them I mean a father, mother,brother or a sister...they can take the physical advantage of a person as well....so the stamp of Mehram doesn't kills the beast inside the person, only the character and the piousness of a person does that.....there are a lot of examples of these type of cases from around the world and they are increasing day by day just because of the immaturity of peoples' minds....
So don't judge a person behind the veils of words....check that someone with your open eyes and then think if you can send your daughter, son or wife with him or her......
