My 76th Post: Suppressed Dreams

The day we are born, we start dreaming of different things with each step we take...some dreams are just our fantasies which are impossible to achieve like having the powers of Goku but other dreams make up the aim of our life...with each growing year, we mature through our thoughts and evaluate each and possible way of achieving them....sometimes we are successful in our motives and at others, we sit down with a frown upon our faces...some of us stand up again and keep on trying, while others stay behind and accept defeat....
There are two types of people...some who have a totally independence over making any decision which they think would help them out and others think they lead but in reality, they totally depend upon their parents or any other guardians....being the second type would really hurt because at times, dreams are modified in something which their guardian wants...so in simple words, their dream dies and start living someone's else's dream.....

When we are young, we are asked again and again that what we want to be when we grow up...that is the question on each and every person's mind who meets us for the first time...we tell different things with time but somehow our aim was always linked together, it just got more realistic with maturity....then comes our parents who tell us that we can become what ever we want but when we grow up, different questions arise and our dreams are mostly crushed because it is not a good career to to be a race car driver that is what we are told by our parents....the thought in my mind here is that if we really can't decide what to do, then why are we given the right to dream....I mean if we aren't capable to live our dream, then that is our loss but if the time comes to live the dream and with all the capabilities we are denied to follow what we had in mind for the past years of our life, then it is soul crushing....
If a person is allowed to dream, then he/she should have the right to follow it completely only with the set of guidance not the authority of changing it from head to toe....if someone is given a task and offered a reward in return, that someone should be awarded that reward when the task is fulfilled....giving a task is just like telling someone to dream and then when the requirements are check listed, then he/she should be allowed to head towards it....I don't know why people don't understand that when someone, for example, is given the permission to learn lets see a guitar and if he/she is successful then he/she can try to become a rockstar...that someone hangs on to the dream and would learn the guitar because the parents allowed him/her to follow the path they dream on...but when the task is completed and he/she is told that being a rockstar isn't the right thing to do, become a physicist instead and no matter what that child has to listen to the parents, the dream is thrashed and clings on the negative side of the brain.....that would hurt a lot because that child proved his/her capabilty but still couldn't continue that because he/she was told not to....
If that is how parents want things, then there is no need of letting the child dream because in the end the path would lead towards what the parents had already planned from the being....supporting a dream and planting the idea of stepping forward and then when the last step remains, pulling back the ladder would hurt the child badly....it is better not to dream if there is no sense of independence.....
If a parent wants the child to dream, then let him/her pursue it if it is the right thing to do and if there is some problem with that, then state it clearly in the beginning ..don't take time and rule out the decision when the child is just about to grab it....that would help both the child and your relation....
Tc, do comment and share...and if there is something offensive then do share....just thought to state what usually happens in our society from generations....

My 72nd Post: The Disgust in Love

The post title might be suggesting that I am the type of a guy who would run away from love and the love stories...in other words, I might be completely an unromantic soul but that is not what I meant to implant in the readers' mind...I am a guy who accepts love and supports it as well but here I am stating the love developed by the 21st century generation....Yes, I am a part of that generation and no, I am not some 25 or 30 year old guy who is stepping into maturity now....I just ended my teens a year ago and this new type of love disgusted me then and disgusts me now...
There is this guy who likes this girl....he goes to her and tells her about his feelings...the girl feels the same and they are together....isn't that supposed to be it? I mean, they like each other, are in a relationship and if things go well, they might marry each other....through out that period of time, they greet each other as special friends but still maintain their limits....a simple and decent love story...what else is required here? I don't think there is a need of any type of spices here, it is perfect as it is but no, there are many who would shout out to the world, proving my insanity....
For me, getting in a relationship is just getting an approval and then with time trying to know that someone better so that the future might be perfect or well seen....on the other hand, for many after proposal comes the time of dating and stuff like that....these days, the life after marriage is same as the life during some relation, only the difference is that after marriage, you can become a father in front of the world....I am not saying that everybody has turned out like this but still there are many to be seen....
Getting physical with someone who is only a girlfriend, someone who is legally not a part of your life, is a shameless act....what if you two don't end up together and a day comes when your spouse finds out about your plays and all or what if you are a guy and you find out after marrying a girl that she was once one of your buddy's girlfriend and they were really into each other? Try thinking over this by standing at the end where it might hurt bad, the point where you get to suffer due to someone's guilt....what would happen to your male ego then? It would be thrashed and crushed....
Some of you might just agree to the part that being physical is not a good idea, that gift should be wrapped till the wedding but what about those private chats and dialogues....you love someone, you tell them...what is up with sending kisses and hugs to someone you have no connection with....I don't want to type inappropriate stuff here but some chats are disgusting and are just off limits....alright fine, sending a hug or a peck is kind of a way of showing continued interest and affection but that should be it...no need of digging into details and describing the scene by taking it away from romance to a porno...is that seriously some kind of love I am unaware of? I really don't think so...
Love should be enough pure that you would easily present it in front of your parents....it should not be the type where your father would have to bend his neck for his entire life....have you ever imagined what would happen if your chats are seen by your family? do you really think your parents would be proud of you and specially for girls, do you really think after viewing all that your brother would want to stand there for you? No, no one would....I said specially girls because no matter which society you are from, you are respected once and when there is a mark upon your forehead, it is never erased through out your life....
 Take care people and its my advise to all to love but in a manner that you would be able to maintain your old relations and wouldn't let anyone down specially your family....do comment your views and share it on....