My 76th Post: Suppressed Dreams

The day we are born, we start dreaming of different things with each step we take...some dreams are just our fantasies which are impossible to achieve like having the powers of Goku but other dreams make up the aim of our life...with each growing year, we mature through our thoughts and evaluate each and possible way of achieving them....sometimes we are successful in our motives and at others, we sit down with a frown upon our faces...some of us stand up again and keep on trying, while others stay behind and accept defeat....
There are two types of people...some who have a totally independence over making any decision which they think would help them out and others think they lead but in reality, they totally depend upon their parents or any other guardians....being the second type would really hurt because at times, dreams are modified in something which their guardian wants...so in simple words, their dream dies and start living someone's else's dream.....

When we are young, we are asked again and again that what we want to be when we grow up...that is the question on each and every person's mind who meets us for the first time...we tell different things with time but somehow our aim was always linked together, it just got more realistic with maturity....then comes our parents who tell us that we can become what ever we want but when we grow up, different questions arise and our dreams are mostly crushed because it is not a good career to to be a race car driver that is what we are told by our parents....the thought in my mind here is that if we really can't decide what to do, then why are we given the right to dream....I mean if we aren't capable to live our dream, then that is our loss but if the time comes to live the dream and with all the capabilities we are denied to follow what we had in mind for the past years of our life, then it is soul crushing....
If a person is allowed to dream, then he/she should have the right to follow it completely only with the set of guidance not the authority of changing it from head to toe....if someone is given a task and offered a reward in return, that someone should be awarded that reward when the task is fulfilled....giving a task is just like telling someone to dream and then when the requirements are check listed, then he/she should be allowed to head towards it....I don't know why people don't understand that when someone, for example, is given the permission to learn lets see a guitar and if he/she is successful then he/she can try to become a rockstar...that someone hangs on to the dream and would learn the guitar because the parents allowed him/her to follow the path they dream on...but when the task is completed and he/she is told that being a rockstar isn't the right thing to do, become a physicist instead and no matter what that child has to listen to the parents, the dream is thrashed and clings on the negative side of the brain.....that would hurt a lot because that child proved his/her capabilty but still couldn't continue that because he/she was told not to....
If that is how parents want things, then there is no need of letting the child dream because in the end the path would lead towards what the parents had already planned from the being....supporting a dream and planting the idea of stepping forward and then when the last step remains, pulling back the ladder would hurt the child badly....it is better not to dream if there is no sense of independence.....
If a parent wants the child to dream, then let him/her pursue it if it is the right thing to do and if there is some problem with that, then state it clearly in the beginning ..don't take time and rule out the decision when the child is just about to grab it....that would help both the child and your relation....
Tc, do comment and share...and if there is something offensive then do share....just thought to state what usually happens in our society from generations....

My 63rd Post: Choosing Between L's, Love or Lust

Its nothing new...happens a lot of times and each time there is rarely a true answer to it...when we meet someone or think about someone continuously just like a stalker, we start wondering and naming the feeling which we have grown...it can be either love or lust, one way or another, the person remains in your thoughts...
Love, that is a true feeling, a desire of having someone around you and spending as much time with that person as possible....never ending care for that someone develops in the heart and it seems as if thinking about that someone is more important rather than to sleep and give the body some rest...lust on the other hand, is similar to what I have described love but with a slight difference....with all the sensitive feelings, there is a feeling of being with that someone but hooking up in a physical act....so I would say that lust is the attraction of hormones whereas love is the bond due to the heart....or lust is pleasure and love is the feeling after pleasure, something like that....
It is really confusing while choosing between love and lust.....like for instance people refer to love at first sight...that is just attraction and when someone is attracted it simply means that they want more than just spending time looking into the eyes of that person....but still people say that is possible so for me I would say that it ain't love at first sight, instead it is somewhere in between love and lust.....what if someone knows someone well and wants to get into a relation...what would that be? love? can't it be lust? when someone loves someone, he/she would really want to be with that someone and at occasions would wanna hug or do something like that....those feelings arrive because they are physically attracted towards that person as well and with time, the desire increases....so what happened, did love turn into lust or was it lust all along or it was pure love....really confusing.....
Dreaming about someone and wishing to be with that special one gets really confusing when you set your relationship status to complicated....it is just like a match of tug of war where the cloth hangs in the middle....it is really tough to make up the mind at times because love really stays on and lust drops off but at times both remain and the brain gets hung on in the middle....
Nothing is really easy and well that is life, it isn't supposed to be easy....no matter what it is, whether lust or love, you only know that there is someone special in your mind and with time things would most probably clear up...if they don't, do not worry, choose whatever you think is the best for your situation...if loving that someone would solve your problems, then love else just drool over them and forget everything and keep on smiling throughout the tough times in life....
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